Bonding between two people creates a relationship at the physical and psychological level. But unfortunately due to a host of factors, relationships break down; especially broken marriages can be devastating. When one tries to reverse the direction of a broken relationship that has suffered from emptiness and conflict, then there has to be a right balance of pure intention and patience to set it reworking. Restoring broken relationships require careful consideration and hard work, that will materialize only if both partners are committed to each other and love each other. It all depends on the degree of discord and the levels of friendship shared between the couple.
Ways to heal a Realtionship
Awareness of inharmonious patterns creating the dysfunctional relationship is the first step towards healing and bringing it to balance.
- Consider the factorsthat make one join with another again, which might be ranging from: shared feelings of togetherness in the past, sake of children, financial reasons, social conditioning, physical pleasures, need to stay as a family as it gives a sense of deep security, to do away feelings of loneliness, and there could be many more.
- Reflect on: moments that you truly had for each other and were there for each other, times when you received good things from another, like prepared a good meal and received compliments or bought one`s wife a surprise gift on her birthday or could be simply fun with kids and many more moments cherished. Fond memories help erase old hurt feelings of quarrels, temper tantrums and harsh exchange of words.
If one still feels a great need to be together, then accept the situation, the partner in totality, oneself particularly, as acceptance is the key that heals the relationship. In some cases, if infidelity is the case, the issue becomes even more challenging. If acceptance and sacredness of being together is brought to the fore, then, transformation of the relationship would happen at its own pace. When one understands that `being together is sacred until death vows to part` is divine, then a shift in consciousness occurs. For this level of understanding, love plays a vital role. Love has to be kindled from the heart. Love is the most powerful energy in the world that transforms all base emotions to feelings of forgiveness, acceptance, compassion, understanding, tolerance and thus helps couples to be bonded and connected to one another for life. Communicate and resolve differences on your own. In other words the couple should talk to each other and express the feelings of wanting another in each one`s life. Coming together and being together and sharing lives for the entire lifetime should be foremost in their mind. Wounds never heal instantaneously, nor behavioral patterns, nor conditioned beliefs, nor habits. But this mindset to forgive the past and re-start again would help transform the existing pattern.
When certain planetary conditions are not favorable in the couple`s chart, then separation, discord, divorce would result. They are karmic patterns that one works out in one`s lifetime. But this can be changed or transformed by sincerely seeking divine guidance to set right the inharmonious patterns and restoring harmony and balance in life. Regular prayers to the eternal divine couple, Radha and Krishna or Shiva and Parvati would rekindle love in the hearts of the couples and bring unity in them. Loveless life is painful. Love and intimacy is a supreme need in any heart, and this blessing should be sought from the heavens in a relationship.
WAYS TO STRENGTHEN
Strengthen the relationship by connecting together as friends, celebrate each other`s company, listen to each other , get intimate , spend more time together and above all both should maintain a sense of self, so that balance and harmony in a relationship prevails.