How To Perform Home Tarpanam

Posted on Nov 15, 2011

Tarpanam
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On the New Moon Day, the departed spirits come to the earth plane and stay with their biological relatives from sunrise to sunset. Fasting during the new moon day will alert your consciousness to be in communion with their spirits.

No fasting for our Ancestors however as they crave a special food; an offering which comprises of black sesame seeds, holy water from rivers and oceans, tulsi leaves, sandalwood paste, sacred dharba grass and some coins. These offerings need to be given to them sincerely and conscientiously for all the 14 days and 15 nights.

When living on the earth plane, even great Siddhas like Agastiya, Maha Rishis like Vasistha, Avatars like Krishna and Rama, appreciated their ancestors through rituals involving this tarpanam ‘food’.

How To Perform Tarpanam

Choose which version resonates with you. Dr. Pillai has suggested to at least practicing the longer version of the Tarpanam ritual during the New Moon phase each month.

Performing either version anytime between sunrise to sunset once every day, especially on New Moon days is highly advisable. However, it is suggested to not perform tarpanam during non-daylight time. Do it as often as possible on New Moon days.

The purpose of doing this is to release ancestors to a higher plane. When they go into the light they send you their blessing.

How To Perform Tarpanam – Short Version

Materials needed:

  • Raw rice or white rice flour
  • Black sesame seeds (most health food stores carry this)
  • Darba grass
  • 1 coin (dime, nickel, rupee, peso etc), or gold coin if available (You may re-use the coins)
  • Glass of water

Please note, if all of the above materials are not available, the bare minimum is the black sesame seeds and water. (If you cannot get black sesame seeds in your area, Dr. Pillai has said beige sesame seeds are ok; however, black sesame seeds are preferred.)

  • Place a tablespoon of black sesame seeds, white rice flower, a coin (nickel or dime) and a few small pieces of dharba grass into the palm of your right hand.
  • Take a glass of water and sprinkle a few drops over the offerings.
  • Make a heartfelt prayer to your ancestors as you pour water over your hand and say, “I invite you to take this offering, 6 generations of ancestors on my mother’s side and 6 generations of ancestors on my father’s side. Take this energy. Be healed, be at peace, cross into the light, and please don’t forget to bless me.” If you wish, you may name those family members that have passed on. Also, as you keep doing this ritual, in time you may increase up to 12 generations in each side.
  • Then pour the rest of the water over right hand and let the offerings wash off completely. (You may reuse the coin. Just rinse it off in water each time) (Note: Some people keep a container in the bathroom with this mixture and do tarpanam daily during morning shower and rinse off the mix while in the shower. Dr. Pillai has said this is ok.)

How To Perform Tarpanam – Longer Version

Materials needed

  • Sandalwood powder (you can buy at any Indian market)
  • Raw rice or white rice flour
  • Black sesame seeds (most health food stores carry this)
  • Darba grass
  • Flowers or petals
  • Glass of water
  • 18 nickels (or if using another currency, the lowest value silver coins available are fine)

Prepare the offering:

  • Cut the Dharba grass into 6 equal pieces, around 4 inches long. (This represents 6 generations on both sides of your family)
  • Line up vertically the 6 pieces of Dharba grass on a plate, or large leaf, leaving a little space between each
  • Make a paste with sandalwood powder by adding water to it; spread the paste onto the dharba grass
  • Place 3 nickels on each piece of grass at the top, middle and bottom
  • Sprinkle flowers over these items
  • Place a tablespoon of white rice flour mixed with a teaspoon of sesame seeds in the palm of your right hand (don’t worry about the amount).

THE OFFERING

  • Sprinkle a few drops of water on the rice flour and sesame seeds in your right hand
  • Say the following: “I invite 6 generations of my ancestors on my mother’s side and 6 generation of ancestors on my father’s side to take this offering”.

Take the glass of water with left hand and pour it over the mixture in your right hand, and let everything fall onto the dharba grass, coins and flowers.

Say with a sincere heart: “Use this energy and be healed, be at peace, cross into the light and please don’t forget to bless me.”

Make sure everything is washed off your right hand.

You may reuse the coins, or discard everything at a river, beach or in nature. You may accumulate offering remnants and discard later.

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74 Responses to “How To Perform Home Tarpanam”

  1. Devanand Rajak Says:

    Please clarify that whether Short version of Ancestors Tarpanam can be offered in any day beside the New Moon Day. Along with this short version of Ancestor Tarpanam the long version can be also offered once in a month on New Moon Day.

    Thanks & Regards,
    Devanand Rajak

  2. JETHMAL BAJAJ Says:

    It is very excellent article on “TARPAN”.One should perform it daily as it is very easy to perform and get blessing of ancestors.In this connection I would like to state that there is GAYA city near PATNA (not BODHGAYA)where annual TARPAN is being done in the month of SEPTEMBER (first 15 days of ASWIN month of hindu calender),which is being done in the guidance of local purohits called PANDA in religious parlance.So if possible one should perform TARPAN once in lifetime at GAYA.

  3. G S Grover Says:

    My sincere thanks and regards for giving this high valued information.

  4. G S Grover Says:

    My sincere thanks and regards for sharing this highly valued knowledge.

  5. Priya Says:

    Should this be done by males alone or even by females. Also where do we wash/discard everything in the short version. Please advice. Thanks

  6. jayawani shiva Says:

    thank you for sharing this knowledge with us. I have never done ancestral worship or any form of thanksviging. I have a question though. Can ladies do this tarpanam?

  7. G S Grover Says:

    Thanks for providing the information of utmost importance.

    Regards.

  8. sushma Says:

    thank you so much for such info it keeps me enlightened. it feeds my spiritual hunger. I wait in my mail to see it. you are great and the emails just superb. thanks sushma

  9. venugopala murthy.m Says:

    please inform where is the temple Sethalapathi is situated. Yours information is highly excelent.

  10. Alagunachiar M Says:

    I would like to do the short version of the tarpam ritual.
    Please let me know whether I have to do it everyday or only on full moon days.Also the offerings(rice and sesame seeds,etc……)how do I dispose it.I dont have a river or any place for disposal near my house.

  11. rudinho Says:

    Can I perform the longer once, on the new moon day?

  12. Anitha Says:

    Sir,

    Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge on how to perform home tarpanam. Please guide me whether to offer it inside our house or can it be in the outside of our living space. I live in the Third floor of the house and have space outside our living walls, where we have some plants.

    Awaiting to hear from you,

    Thank you

    Regards
    Anitha

  13. Ujwwal Parekh Says:

    how do you discard on daily basis or otherwise when you perform, if you can’t throw them in river or water all the time and can you store and keep it ? is it spiritually ok ?

  14. Ujwwal Parekh Says:

    wanted to have a urgent help on my chart being read and given me sure shot reading of my condition and improvement ?

  15. MEERA Says:

    1.can the tarpanam be given by ladies/ daughters? both in presence/ absence of male members in the family?
    2.is there any specific time to do this b/n sunrise & sunset?
    3.in some families there is a custom to do this ancestral puja on the day of ayudha pooja during dassera,which we have been following,is it right/wrong? or should it be done during this mahalaya amavasya itself? please advise.

  16. Nagendran Annamalai Says:

    Can any one perform the Tarpanam ( male of female ) for their ancestors, In case if parents are line can we still perform tarpanam for our ancestors ,

  17. Nagendran Annamalai Says:

    Can any one perform the Tarpanam ( male of female ) for their ancestors, In case if parents are alive can we still perform tarpanam for our ancestors ,

  18. Mamta Rai Says:

    Thanks to Astroved…..to tell us the most powerful way to heal the ancestors sacred spirit and to get healed and praised by them….thanks a lot….please show us the right path always!

  19. R.Aswath narayanan Says:

    Excellent guidance for a person like me since I have no time to go out to perform tarpana for my ancestors.

  20. fiya maudhub Says:

    ya i perform tarpanam in amavasya .generation of my ancestors came in dream they give me their blessing i like to do tarpanam

  21. laxmirao Says:

    Thank You Sir for the vauable advice.will surely do this.can ladies do this.

  22. Gloria Says:

    I live in London, UK, can you please let me know where I can find dharba grass, as I cannot find it.
    Thank you

  23. Ankit Says:

    can i perform this ritual at home or should i perform this outside

  24. Kala Says:

    Can the tarpanam be done by females.Must it be done everyday during mahalaya.If parents alive can we do it for ancestors.Is there any specific time to do this if so what time.Can i discard the contents in my garden if there is no river nearby

  25. Annuja Says:

    Pls advise as it was mentioned that offering which comprises of black sesame seeds, holy water from rivers and oceans, tulsi leaves, sandalwood paste, sacred dharba grass and some coins…does this mean while doing tarpanam..we can also add thulsi leaves & sandal wood paste?..

  26. Mila Says:

    Hi

    Thank you for sharing the Tarpanam.
    We were usually doing it just once during that period, it is good to know that it should be done everyday.
    Does the whole family needs to participate?
    Thank you

  27. Ram Says:

    Thank you for letting us know to perform Tarpanam in a very simple way.

  28. Suchitra Says:

    I am a lady,Can I perform tarpan? Is it ok to do tarpan if parents are alive?

  29. purnima Says:

    Thanks to Astroved…to tell us the most powerful way to heal the ancestors sacred spirit and to get healed and praised by them….thanks a lot….please show us the right path always! and one more thing i would like to know can we perform this
    tarpanam for our own selfs while still alive and the procedure for it
    an early reply will be appreciated and everyone can read the same thanks Dr. Pillai

  30. kripanee Says:

    Dr pillai, i bow to your feet millions of time ,i am a great fan of yours ,thank you astroved for giving this information i have been doing tarpanam on and off and i have great hope for the future , just could never find dharba grass anywhere !!!! If you can give an idea where i can get it ….

  31. suja Says:

    Good day sir

    In one house, one person do enough or need to do separately.. exp : Husband and Wife

  32. revathy pillai Says:

    Dear Sir

    I have few question to be clarified hope can guide me

    1. Where should we do this tarpanam? inside or outside the house?
    2. What is the best time to do? during sunrise or any specific time?
    3. After shower or before shower we need to do? or after do we need to take shower?
    4. Do we need to do all the 15 days? and put light at god prayers room all this 15 days?
    5. Can female do? how many people in one house need to do?
    6. Can we do in the house and temple also? and must be vegetarian all this 15 days?

    Thank you sir

  33. kirti Says:

    please help me i would like to do this tarpana every day from today i am a lady can i do it and how can i perfom this in the bathroom as that is very convinient should i let it every thing go in the gutter please be specific and thanks to you Dr pillai fot being so compassionate

  34. Shivani Says:

    Please advise which is the best place to do the tarpanam at ? Thank you!

  35. Gajraj Says:

    Please clarify as How to put vertically & then put the coin on Top, middle & bottom in the longer version of Tarpanam!!! As posted by you: “Line up vertically the 6 pieces of Dharba grass on a plate, or large leaf, leaving a little space between each
    Make a paste with sandalwood powder by adding water to it; spread the paste onto the dharba grass
    Place 3 nickels on each piece of grass at the top, middle and bottom.”

  36. Gajraj Says:

    Please clarify as How to put vertically & then put the coin on Top, middle & bottom in the longer version of Tarpanam.

  37. janet Says:

    Thank you for this information. I, and I feel my ancestors are closer now.

  38. Inderjit Says:

    Thanks Dr. Pillai for the method of tatpanam and many more things.

  39. Shanta Says:

    Thanks for sharing with us, we need their blessing and to give back to them. Can ladies do this tarpan? Thank you Thank you……

  40. Sivalingam Ayavoo Says:

    Dear Dr.Pillai,
    Thank-u very much for enlightening us with this simple method of performing Tarpanam.

  41. admin Says:

    Thanks Sivalingam Ayavoo, Best Wishes!

  42. admin Says:

    Hi Shanta,

    You can visualize and pray for your ancestors to get Liberation. This will help them to reach their destiny in the astral world. In turn it will bring blessings to you.

    Thanks,
    AtsroVed Team

  43. admin Says:

    Hi Shivani,

    Kasi in the South and Gaya in the north are the best religious place to do tarpanam!

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  44. admin Says:

    Hi Kirti,

    Do not do in the bath room. I can be done in garden or open space only.

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  45. admin Says:

    Hi Revathy,

    Here is the answer for your each question..!

    1. Outside
    2. Sunrise
    3. After Shower
    4. Yes
    5. Yes female can do. All the members can do
    6. Follow vegetarianism

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  46. admin Says:

    Hi Kripanee,

    If your are abroad you can get it from Indian store or if there is any temple in your place the person who performs pooja to God in that temple will have it.

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  47. admin Says:

    Hi Purnima,

    You can visualize and pray for your ancestors to get Liberation. This will help them to reach their destiny in the astral world. In turn it will bring blessings to you.

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  48. admin Says:

    Welcome!

  49. admin Says:

    Hi Mila,

    If everybody participate it will be good

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  50. admin Says:

    Hi Annuja,

    Yes

  51. admin Says:

    Hi Kala,

    Yes for all the questions

    Best Wishes,
    Astroved Team

  52. admin Says:

    Hi Ankit,

    You can perform at both home and outside..

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  53. admin Says:

    Hi Gloria,

    If your are abroad you can get it from Indian store or if there is any temple in your place the person who performs pooja to God in that temple will have it.

    Best Wishes,
    AstroVed Team

  54. Rakesh Says:

    Should we dispose the washed items from the right palm, in a place untouched by others? where should we dispose the washed items from the right palm?

  55. ashok Says:

    It is another trick by Brahman for their benefit. I belief after death no need for any rituals.

  56. Rohini Says:

    Do we face the east at sunrise and do the tarpansm or any particular direction?
    Also it can be done individually by husband and wife?

  57. carmenlina Says:

    this will my first time i hope my ansesters here me thank you for this ritual

  58. Shanthi Says:

    Thanks

    Shanthi

  59. Sonny Says:

    Can Tarpanam be performed in the prayer room? Which is the best place in the house to perform this?

  60. N.K.GANESHAN Says:

    Thank you very much for the information on this simple method of performing Tarpanam.

  61. shankaranarayanan Says:

    excellent

  62. Niva Puryag Says:

    Hi,is it necessary to be vegetarian for 15 days?

  63. Deepa Says:

    If females can do tarpanam, What is the correct time in the morning between what time till what?
    If female is married, she has to do tarpanam where she should pray only for the ancestors of his husband side or she can pray to her ancestor’s also?
    If females does Tarpanam, n darba grass is not available, does one can use only Sesame seeds and water? If yes then which sesame seeds can be used by Females?
    Females can do daily tarpanam or once a week or on a special day?
    Kindly reply the queries….

  64. Deepa Says:

    What is the correct time to do tarpanam in the morning between what time till what for females?
    If female is married, she has to do tarpanam where she should pray only for the ancestors of his husband side or she can pray to her ancestor’s also?
    If females does Tarpanam, n darba grass is not available, does one can use only Sesame seeds and water? If yes then which sesame seeds can be used by Females?
    Females can do daily tarpanam or once a week or on a special day?

  65. Deepa Says:

    What time is perfect for females to do tarpanam i.e. between what time till what?
    If female is married she only can do tarpanam for husband’s ancestor’s?
    which colour sesame seeds does female can use?
    female has to do tarpanam daily or once aweek, if yes then which day or on the special day?
    one can do tarpanam looking at the sun giving water or in other way?

  66. Vasanthalakshmi Says:

    I read in the net that during this period of Mahalaya, we should not consume food in another’s house as their ancestors would be there and they may impact us thru transferance of Karma. Someone else told me that they actually look forward for someone to eat in their home as that is auscpicious.
    What is the right way?

  67. Rajlakshmy Says:

    I have always been keen to know about these essential tarpanams to perform for our ancestors. Living in New Zealand, it is difficult to get all the materils needed, so the shorter and simpler version is more suitable too.
    Thank you sir.

  68. admin Says:

    Dear Vasantha Lakshmi,

    No it is not true. Do not scared of it.

    Best wishes.

  69. admin Says:

    Dear Deepa,

    You can do tarpanam for everybody. Even for your friends and the pets that die. Black sesame seeds are best. Daily trapanam is good. Avoid your menstrual time. Do tarpanam looking at the Sun.

    Best wishes.

  70. admin Says:

    Dear Niva Puryag,

    Yes you should be vegetarian. That’s ok don’t feel guilty about it. Seek forgiveness to your ancestors and ask for their blessings by visualizing and praying to them for 21 days.

    Best wishes.

  71. admin Says:

    Dear Sonny,

    If there is balcony or space outside. Please perform there.

    Best wishes.

  72. admin Says:

    Dear Rohini,

    You should perform tarpanam facing East direction.

    Bets wishes.

  73. admin Says:

    Dear Ashok,

    It is your belief. But there are so many other things which we don’t know and cannot understand.

    Best wishes.

  74. admin Says:

    Dear Rakesh,

    You can pour it to trees or plants. It should not be stamped by anyone and keep away from animals and pets.

    Best wishes.

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